Something similar is the case of divorce, or parents who may not be divorced but who are constantly fighting. Some couples can’t agree on anything but manage to agree on the children. Some make you feel like a ping pong ball. Either way, it’s okay to hurt because people aren’t together. It’s something God wants you to take to Him so He can help and heal your broken heart.
However, you don’t have to feel like you’re forced to choose anymore. By being the spiritual leader, you are putting God ahead of both of them. You can choose God’s say instead of one parent over the other. Then, you can also relieve the strain on your siblings, or step- or half- or whatever siblings you might have.
That may be the best way to approach this with them. Whether they are being good role models or fighting, if they are using you or not, God will give you peace to handle any situation. And, if there is a tough choice between your parents on an issue, choose to do what God says is right. When parents force you to choose between them, that is often a sign they are putting their own desires, or thoughts about what is best for you, ahead of God’s. God’s solution might happen to be the same as one or the other, or different from both. What it will be is God’s solution.
No, God doesn’t give specifics for every situation. But, He gives the guidelines discussed in section B above, concerning putting Him first. For instance, if one parent has no limits on what you watch on TV and put into your mind, and the other has strict limits, the stricter limits are there to protect you, so you can think on – and keep your mind on – the things of Philippians 4:8. But, you should explain to the parent you are saying “no” to that you aren’t choosing to love the one with the stricter limits any more or less than them. You are making this choice because god says it’s right.
On the other hand, if your parents are trying to win your favor by giving you absolute freedom, and you fear having to choose, you can avoid that choice between parents by choosing neither. You can tell both, “I will follow God by not watching any of the filthy TV shows or movies you let me see. This is not a choice either side is forcing me to make. I’m choosing this because I love God.”
It should be an easy decision to make, seeing as how God never forces anyone to love Him. He lovingly draws us to Himself
