We noted in the beginning what God’s plan was for family. For that plan to work best, a man and a woman must be involved. This is because each one has a special function. A good, Godly spouse completes someone. The person God has for you will fit with you like a jigsaw puzzle.
Let’s look at that analogy for a second. Picture a jigsaw puzzle. When you put one together, you don’t just look at one side. You have to see it’s an edge before putting it on the edge, for instance. Then, you have to look for shapes, patterns, and so on.
Now, let’s say someone took a piece off that jigsaw puzzle. It wouldn’t quite fit together right. The pieces might kind of go, but it just wouldn’t feel right.
In the same way, there are certain things God wants us to save for our future mates. Some don’t even kiss till their wedding day. Even if it’s only deeper stuff that you save, though, you still need to understand that this deeper stuff was meant for pleasure between a man and a woman within marriage. It’s a joy then, and it’s much more so when someone has kept themselves pure for you.
The rules apply to men and women both; God is no respecter of persons. He never made any rules that only applied to one gender. He says fornication is wrong. The Old Testament law called for the man and woman to be punished equally. (What a shame that the man never showed up at the start of John 8; he could have had his sins forgiven like the woman.) Of course, it’s never the fault of someone who has it forced on them. Even the law – which was created to show people how much they needed God’s mercy and grace – always judged people’s hearts alone, not their actions.
There are lots of things that make us thing about that sensual part, though, that lead us astray. Pictures with very little clothing, for instance. It’s stuff we shouldn’t be looking at. For married people, the object of their affection should be their spouse; for them and others, it should be the love of God they focus on most.
The world doesn’t like it, but it’s really being loving and respectful. Think about it. You’re not an animal. The human mind can conceive of abstract things, create great works that have profound meaning, enjoy things in a way an animal can’t. You can understand the joy of having someone save themselves and devote themselves to you in a way animals can’t; and even some of them have lifelong partners. Whereas, not following God’s plan causes huge messes.
