b. Inside relationships, a need for self-control

That’s why self control is so important. As we end this part on overcoming obstacles – though a few will likely come up in Part III – remember that the best way to overcome is to be different from the world. We are called to be in the world, but not of it.

We talked earlier about being a “living sacrifice,” but the next verse is also vital. It gives us the key. “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. (Romans 12:2)

God doesn’t just make you a new creature and that’s it. He keeps renewing you, transforming you, so you can be more like Him. As we noted earlier, He loves that we’re diverse within the rules, but He wants us to become like Him in His love, goodness, mercy, and so on. There is no room for evil with Him.

That is how you will overcome; by letting Him work in you. It’s okay if you mess up; it is of His mercies that we are not all consumed, anyway, because His mercies are new every morning. (Lam. 3:22-23) The prophet Jeremiah penned those words while watching his beloved Jerusalem surrounded and destroyed by the evil Babylonians. You may not face problems that big. But, God will help you through anything.

However, the best way for Him to help you is if you keep from being conformed to this world. Be like Christ, and you will be greatly rewarded. Because, you can be a great spiritual leader. Not because you have any specific gift. But, because you make yourself available to God for His team.